Vendetta or feuds tend to begin because one party (correctly or incorrectly) perceives itself to have been attacked, insulted or wronged by another (Wikipedia). In the events of the presence of such conflict, one must note that the truth is absent or is hiding to reconcile issues of conflict. If we think that there is no honesty, the personal trust is shaken. Resolutions for such matters will not come about if both parties cant confront and extract the truth from its hiding place and resolve the hate towards each other.
Last week, a newly evoked vendetta happened in Cebu. This is a conflict between two transexuals for a foreign man they had acquainted from Friendster. This foreign guy came to the Cebu last January and met few tg/ts to choose for a partner. Ts DA and Ts DY had met him. The former, as what other ts friend said, repudiate the man's offer for relationship because shes not available. The latter was introduced my a friend Raquela Rios to the man, that time they were two ts competing. In the end, Ts DY was chosen and they compromise for a relationship.
After his trip in the Philippines, the guy was having a good relationship with Ts DY, they had a good communication and exchange reciprocity between them. Mr. Foreigner promise to come for a week in late March to celebrate his birthday with her. Due to working schedules, the guy canceled his flight and managed to rebook for a flight schedule after two weeks. With that bad news, Ts DY was depressed because he cant spend her time to celebrate her "love's" bday but was relieve because they still have good communication. The guy also promises to give her a laptop pc, a camera, perfume and makeup so Ts DY was happy to know it. Then, the waiting is over and they eventually met. They have spent 2 days roaming around the city and a day away from the city to the tranquil place in a beach south of Cebu. After they arrive back in the city. The man said he will meet his child, a son from her ex-wife in Cebu. So the man went to his wife and met his child in a mall. That time, Ts DY went also to the same mall touring her close relatives and for her to give them a treat. Exchange of messages happened between the two in the mall. Giving pain to the femme. Messages connoting that the man don't want her to come near him.
She understood what the man so she didn't mind it. Then one day the man ask permission to Ts DY to meet his son again. So she let him. Bored being alone she went out and head to the mall and hoping that she can see her man happy seeing his child. But then she saw the ex-wife and son with the nanny with no presence of the father. So she was worried that time. She waited all night for the man and called him many times in his mobile and she didn't got an answer. Sleepless waiting, she endured waiting for the man till the man came back the next morning with a broke his bone and his arm in now in a cast. He explained that he had been in an accident and didn't told her the truth about what really happen.
That time the man was gone, he went to met Ts DA. They had in contact since he was still in Dubai. So they met and the rest was history (undocumented story from Ts DA) till they had an accident in the mountains. After that incident, they were admitted to the hospital. There Xrab, Domln and Sind, who met the foreign guy on the first night, was shocked seeing the guy in the hospital and explained the situation while Ts DY was waiting for the man in their flat till he came back.
News came from some friends that Ts DA had an accident which is very reluctant to believe at first because TS are fond of making puns and jokes to each other about tragic things. Then friends of Ts DA sent messages to other friends and confirmed she was in the hospital because her car got hit in the mountains with the "afam" ( foreign guy) until Ts DA sent everyone some text messages about her condition.
Xrab, a friend of both parties, interrogated the foreign guy and Ts DA on what happened and their acquaintance even the foreign guy had a relationship with Ts DY. So what they had talked in the hospital didn't came to Ts DY's knowledge till the midnight of the guy. With full anger she sent a message to the guy and told him to come back immediately in the their house. In that day the guy with fracture asked again Ts DY to let him go to see his son (accdg. to Ts DY she went to Ts DA). So arriving in their house Ts Dy had a mixed feeling about what happen knowing that his man met another ts. She wants to kill him but it didn't happen. So they had a great fight!blah blah blah!
Even to that time, Ts DA still sent sms to the foreign man telling him to come to the hospital because she was in pain. Ts DY knew about it and the man ask Ts DY to let her answer the sms. In order for the guy to reply to Ts DA, Ts Dy permitted if he will kiss her (cos she was dying to kiss him os he miss him so). After that they talk about their future and the man said he cant decide at that time because he said he was "brainwash" and he can answer about him and Ts Dy's future when he arrive back in Dubai! After this, they have a personal compromise and parted with Ts DY's tears and lean on his shoulders for comfort (definitely in pain she said her dreams was shattered).
Weekend after the departure of the man. Both ts met in a pageant audition for ts in Cebu P. There Ts DY pulls Ts DA's hair before the start of the activity. The confrontation of of both parties was not of talk but because of the anger the other felt so it was never possible to resolve their problems. Ts DY humiliated and disturbed Ts DA's presentation and everyone from the audience were curious of what was happening there. So the judge asked Ts DA in her interview that was her accident was of good karma and she answered back with "YES" and explained about it.
Now, statements arise via internet bulletins criticizing those who she thought that turned back on her!!!!!
This ts situation that happened recently had been a mind-buggling for me. With questions such as, Why are men who seeks ts for relationship cannot stick to one ts. Why had a relationship to a ts thats is somehow had a close relationship to his ts-gf? Why tell lies and cannot tell the truth in front of her gf's place?
I think that this situation can change the ideas of ts on their relationship with men. This can build more untrusting in the part of the ts to their bf. This will reflect into ts's attitude in not giving their whole feelings to man. With the rampant experiences of pain and suffering of ts from their Filipino bfs and its society in general, it will add up to their thinking that Filipinos and foreigners are alike by inflicting pain to them and definitely lead them not to be serious to the partners they met.
For a relationship there must be loyalty to strengthen trust. Shattered trust is difficult to put together. Until the truth comes out from its hiding place, it will either solve the problem or its continuation. But at the end, the damage has been done.
So men don't play with us so we will not play with you!
Both parties are free to write they're statements in the comments section of the blog and explain their side of the story. But still confronting face to face will be a good way to resolve their issues......
